Is Love a Distraction? (Answered)


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Love is an amazing feeling we all encounter, young and old. But can it get in the way?

We all have lives to lead, and a romantic relationship is only one part of it.

Love is such a powerful emotion, it’s easy for us to get distracted by it.

Here I look at how it can distract you, how it can affect your goals, if it can inspire, and what you can do to help you focus.

How love is distracting you

The definition of distraction is, “a thing that prevents us from giving full attention to something else”. That is exactly what love is. It takes your attention away from what you’re doing.

When you’re in love you’re fixated with someone and you think about them all the time. This is more so when the love is new and you’re going through the honeymoon period.

You could be at your job or school trying to work, and you can’t complete your tasks because all you can think about is the love of your life.

We’ve all felt that way, and it’s a nice feeling. It’s like we’re giddy and happy. Nothing seems to matter as much and we don’t have a care in the world.

There are depictions of love in cartoons that show love like a drug to describe the effect it has on us. It’s a powerful and distracting emotion.

How you behave when distracted

You might procrastinate and not start what you want to, due to your mind being preoccupied. Perhaps you’re in the middle of something and your mind wanders.

When you’re doing something remotely boring, is when we often think about more important things on our mind. At that moment, it’s the person we love.

Love makes you lose your train of thought. You could be doing something important that requires constant attention. But your mind drifts off.

You may give into your distraction and use your phone to contact your lover. You may stop what you’re doing and talk to someone about him.

After a while, we get frustrated and our anxiety increases the more we are distracted from what we’re trying to do.

Love affects your focus and concentration

When what you’re doing demands you focus and love gets in the way, these are symptoms that many illnesses replicate.

If you’re trying to do multiple things at once which is needed in many situations. You may find it difficult to accomplish these if you can’t concentrate.

We all have a limited attention span. This is further limited when distractions are thrown in the mix. This is the lack of focus you get from being in love.

Love lowers the effect of stress when you might need some adrenaline for what you’re doing. Stress stimulates your body to help you focus and concentrate.

Research shows that couples have an improvement in coping with real time stress. They indicated there was euphoric and addictive like behavior that had an impact on every part of the subject’s life.

Is love a distraction for students?

Love can affect young people in a very powerful way. They’re not used to the intensity of it. It can override other priorities in their lives.

The very nature of the distraction can make students appear less intelligent than they are. They’re preoccupied while trying to complete a task.

They also care less about what they’re doing and not feel the need to try as hard. They have this wonderful feeling and nothing else matters.

Students may have other plans when they should be concentrating on their studies. It’s a battle to juggle the demands of university and school to the social enjoyment that also exists.

This doesn’t affect every student. Some can prioritize their school work and separate it from their love and social lives.

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Can love distract you from your goals?

A teenager will reach a certain age when they start thinking about the opposite sex. This can often be at the expense of their school work or other personal goals they once had.

You often hear of young people with aims of having a certain job when they’re older, or having an altruistic purpose in life. This can go by the wayside when they meet the love of their life.

When love is new, we often want to spend all of our time with that person as well as thinking about them. This can happen at any age and deviates us from what we want to do.

Suddenly a family may be wanted and the career is disregarded. The goal changes and that’s not a bad thing, it’s what the person wants. But love caused this distraction from the original goal.

The people who can manage their goals and the distraction love can gives us, may have the best of both worlds. They’re perhaps able to live their lives in a more fulfilling way.

Is love an inspiration instead of a distraction?

There are thousands of works of art dating back hundreds of years inspired by love. Ancient artifacts portray women as God like entities which are clearly influenced by love.

They say love makes us more creative because it makes us think in a variety of ways. It opens our mind to new ways of thinking. This is backed by medical research.

The research was done at the University of Amsterdam and concludes that it alters our thoughts and makes us think “globally”. Some of the most beautiful poetry every written has been about love.

Even if you disregard romantic love. Our love for our fellow man inspires compassion and understanding. Acts of kindness and devotion have taken place in the name of love.

Love is one of the most common words and reasons for written music. Research shows how many times love has been the inspiration for hits appearing in the Billboard 100.

While love can distract you from being creative, it has the power to inspire far more creativity within you. This can manifest itself in all areas of your life.

How to stop being distracted by love

Apart from enjoying the creativity love inspires, there are ways we can prevent it being a distraction in our everyday lives. Try and do your tasks one at a time at work or a school if you feel your mind wandering off.

Turn your phone off so you’re not tempted to look to see if your lover has contacted you and to stop you contacting him. There’s only so many hours in the day and you’ll probably see him again soon.

If that’s impossible, allocate 5 minutes to talk about and contact the object of your affection. Get it off your mind every hour or two so you can concentrate on what you should be doing.

It’s easier said than done to focus, but it does get better in time. You know this distraction is not about something urgent and can affect your productivity.

If you’re a student, you need to think about what you’re trying to accomplish. Think about those end goals and the benefits of achieving them. Your boyfriend can wait.

Final thoughts

Love itself is a distraction and there’s no getting away from that fact. It’s well known that our concentration and focus suffer when we want to do something.

Love is a great feeling and we wouldn’t be without it. The inspiration it can provide can take us anywhere our minds can go. It can inspire us to create amazing works of art.

But when it comes to day to day life, we need to know that life is more than just the other person we’re fixated on. It would be a shame to let life goals go by just because you finally found the man of your dreams.

For young people and students it can be difficult to concentrate if the boy we like is in the same class or lecture. But it’s an enjoyable feeling you get used to.

As humans, it’s a good thing that love distracts. It helps us further the human race. It just gets in the way sometimes in modern society.

Emma Taylor

I'm a relationship expert with years of experience who's given advice to hundreds of people. I hope you've found some good advice here too.

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